Many studies suggest that somewhere from 10 to 20 % of men and women in marriages and other committed relationships will cheat on their partner at some point. As it turns out, cheating on partners in committed relationships is a lot more common than we’d like to admit. In fact, it’s probably always been prevalent, but is only getting attention today because it’s no longer just men who cheat.
While cultural stereotypes inform us that it’s mostly men who cheat on their wives or girlfriends and not the other way around, recent researches show that nearly as many women cheat as men.
What are the reasons that make people cheat in relationships?
There are many psychological reasons that make people cheat in relationships and that can be avoided if properly understood.
1. Lack of sexual satisfaction:
This was the most common reason cited by the people who cheat on their partners. Both women and men who enter into extra-marital affairs are hoping to improve their sex lives. They may enjoy many other mutual activities but, for whatever reason, the sex is not working out for them.
2. Lack of emotional satisfaction:
Seeking emotional intimacy can be nearly as compelling a reason to have an affair as of seeking physical intimacy. Being appreciated is a key factor in the emotional connection that partners feel toward each other. Partners may grow apart and, as they do, fail to acknowledge the needs that both have in their relationship.
3. Falling out of love with your partner:
Love is so difficult to define. In the grand scheme of things, having sexual and emotional intimacy seems to trump love.
4. Seeking Revenge:
In a relationship that is already suffering, the desire to hurt a partner who is (or is perceived as) cheating seems to raise the stakes significantly from mere lack of intimacy.
5. Poor Strategies & Bad Intent Affairs:
Marital bliss gives way to marital difficulties that many struggles to cope with – for some cheating is a response to the rising stress and dissatisfaction, while for others it can even be an act of hostility or relationship sabotage.
6. Curious to have new experiences:
People who wanted something new go beyond curiosity and into some type of contest to measure their sexual prowess. The allure of someone and something new may lead them to choose this particular form of challenge.
Extramarital affairs clearly represent a complex mix of desire, anguish, and the need for connection. Rarely are they apparently entered into without conflict or even distress? They may be the product of, or the cause of, the ending of a marital relationship.